There is No "Them"

Have you ever noticed "them"?

You know the ones. The other ones. Those who don't match up with our requirements for inclusion. They don't fit in. Do you know who I am talking about yet? Them. The others. The ones that look Palmer monsters They talk funny; remember? They go to the wrong church on top of all that. These are just a sampling of the ways House of Mystery commonly refer to others of our 1956 Topps baseball cards as "them." I don't mean to upset the apple cart, but there is no "them."

I do mean to say that I have been looking out at the world from behind these eyes for over 45 years, and I have come to realize that we are all truly equal. It doesn't matter what our skin color is or where we live. It makes no difference how we vote or whom we worship. We are all included by design. It was never intended to be any other way. Any attempt to exclude any one for any reason by any group, establishment, church, or whatever is unacceptable and is not the way of Christ.

All it really took for me to recognize this eternal truth was to place myself in the other person's shoes and really look at how they might feel under my form of judgment. I didn't have to walk around in the other person's shoes. You certainly don't have to literally be in their shoes -- especially if you have a foot issue. Just forget the shoe thing -- Think. About. It.

Think about how the other person feels about themselves and the world. You may not be able to. That should serve as a reminder that we can't really know how anyone feels. Just imagine how the way you choose to treat them will impact them. If after doing so, you can still argue for the justification for casting judgment on them, then e-mail me and let's debate it. :O

Just think about the fact that the other person has experiences that helped form them into who they are. Do you have fears in some area? I'll bet you the other person does as well. Do you want to be accepted just as you are? I'll bet the other person does too. If we allow all whom we come into contact with to be who they are and pass no judgment on them, aren't we doing unto them as we would want them to do unto us? I don't know about you, but I don't want to be referred to as a "them." I've been there. I probably still am one of them for some... that's too bad. It feels crummy, but it doesn't have to be that way at all.

I want to be accepted and loved right here, right now, without having to change in any way. I'll bet you feel the same. What if we really wanted it so badly that we began to see all creatures as having intrinsic value? What if we just let go of the need to judge or profile anyone?

Do you think it would make a difference?

Could we change the world in the process?

Are we willing to give it a try?

Jeff Baker

I have been looking and I have been finding, asking and receiving, knocking and doors are opening. If you want to know more, it's easier if you just go here -- href="jeffbakertalks.com/mystory.html">jeffbakertalks.com/mystory.html

Peace -- jb

What Do Your Prospects Think About You?

Let me clarify what I mean by prospects, I mean the casual shoppers, the ones who will be interested in your product or service someday. You may be thinking "Who cares!" or "I need business today. I will deal with someday, someday" or even "What does planet robot prospect that far out matter?"

It is amazing how many companies do not know the answer Creepy Crawlers "what do your prospects think about you?" It is astonishing! The companies that take the time to find out Star Wars information learn not only how Fantastic Four prospect views them, but how to target them better as well. By finding out this information you will learn what is, what needs to be and what their needs are. Let me explain.

What is? How are you currently perceived in the market? Is this perception what you would like it to be?
You would be amazed to learn that the perception of most companies is normally not at all what the company thinks it is-regardless of what the advertising efforts entail.

What needs to be? Your brand is a presentation of what the customer will experience when they do business with you. It is your company painting the picture of the promised experience before it occurs. If you paint one picture and a customer experiences another, a disconnect occurs with the customer. This can work to your favor if the customer is getting more than expected or more commonly, can work against you if they are not getting what they expected.

Let's assume for a moment that a disconnect occurs with the majority of your customers and they all receive more than expected. This sounds good right? It can be. But it can also be a bad thing. Depending on what and how much they are getting for the price, you could establish the perception of being cheap. This means if you raise your prices, your clients will go elsewhere. Every company needs to raise prices at one time or another, having a cheap reputation may get you the sale today, but it will not keep the client coming back.

What are the needs? All businesses suffer at one time or another from jargon-itice. Jargon-itice is a case of a person or company knowing enough about their industry (to be dangerous) that results in them assuming the market knows the same information; or a person knows enough about their industry that they assume prospects and clients are idiots. Both scenarios normally result in the person using industry jargon and talking about the perks from a business perspective not the needs of client, again causing a disconnect.

So why is this disconnect such a big issue? Look at how much you spend on advertising and marketing in a year. That is a large amount of money to risk wasting. By knowing and understanding this information accurately you can better target your clients, their needs and properly attract more qualified business.

Mel DePaoli is the president and founder of Omicle located in Seattle, WA. She is also interviewing companies for her upcoming book series Brand or Culture: Which Comes First. Please visit href="omicle.com">Omicle.com for more information about how Omicle can become your Catalyst for Discovery and href="brandorculture.com">brandorculture.com to get involved in the Brand or Culture Debate!
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